Sometimes I wake up already in pain, which feels rude considering I was unconscious and minding my business.
My jaw aches like I spent the night grinding concrete. My shoulders are locked halfway to my ears. My hands hurt like I’ve been stress-clenching imaginary problems in my sleep (which, honestly, tracks). I didn’t overdo it yesterday. I didn’t injure anything. I just… existed.
This kind of flare doesn’t start in my body — it lands there.
My nervous system wakes up feral. Heart racing. Muscles braced. Skin overly dramatic. Brain fog so thick I could lose a thought mid-thought.
It’s like my body heard a rumor that something bad might happen and decided to prepare for war before confirming the details.
When the nervous system is under prolonged stress, it can amplify pain signals even without new injury — a process called central sensitization. It’s common in fibromyalgia and chronic pain conditions, and it means the pain is real, measurable, and neurological — not imagined or exaggerated.
Here’s the annoying science part: emotional stress doesn’t stay politely in the “feelings” department. It rewires pain pathways, cranks up inflammation, and lowers the threshold for flares. My body doesn’t care if the threat is physical or psychological — it reacts with the same unhinged enthusiasm either way.
So when I say I’m in pain, I’m not being metaphorical. I mean my body is cashing a check my nervous system wrote.
There’s research behind this, by the way. Emotional distress activates the same pain-processing pathways in the brain as physical injury. For people with fibromyalgia or trauma histories, the nervous system can stay stuck in high-alert mode — turning stress into very real, very physical pain.
It looks like moving slower. Canceling plans without guilt (or with guilt, but canceling anyway). It looks like heat packs, silence, and a deep distrust of anyone who suggests I “push through it.” It looks like exhaustion that sleep laughs at and pain that refuses to justify itself with visible damage.
This isn’t weakness. This is a system that’s been on high alert for too long and forgot how to stand down.
Some days the goal isn’t fixing anything — it’s lowering the volume. Fewer demands. Softer expectations. Treating my body like it’s been through something instead of asking it to perform like it hasn’t.
Pain doesn’t always come from injury. Sometimes it comes from carrying too much, for too long, with no off switch. Til next time gang, take gentle care of yourselves, and each other!
Stress management, we ALL at some point undergo stress, its an essential yet shitty byproduct of a joyful human experience. While your brain feels like it’s running a marathon while simultaneously trying to solve a Rubik’s cube, sometimes you need something more than deep breathing to keep from losing your mind. Maybe its because I grew up in the era of Saturday morning cartoons and reruns of Tom and Jerry, but I very much picture and visualize stress as making me red and steam coming out of my ears, so I look at stress relief as a valve that releases AAAALLLLLL the bad (I used to teach yoga, exhale the bad to give you room to inhale the good.). From work pressures to personal challenges, it can feel like the weight of the world is on your shoulders. But did you know that one of the best ways to manage stress might just be to create, express, and explore? Engaging in creative activities like art, writing, and music not only offers a fun escape, but can also provide therapeutic benefits to calm the mind and rejuvenate the spirit. Here are some creative outlets that can help alleviate stress, all while having a blast.
Art: When Words Fail, Colors Speak
Forget being the next Picasso. This isn’t about creating museum-worthy masterpieces. It’s about splashing color around and telling your brain to shut up for a minute. Mixing colors and mediums have been proven to raise cortisol levels in repeated studies. Pro tip: Those adult coloring books? Total game-changers. Especially the ones with the naughty words, those help and who didnt color in bubble letters on stuff in school. I love those or the really pretty Mandalas! Last year I even got hubby one, the Mandalas were all boobs lol he loved it.
Writing: Your Brain’s Emotional Dumpster
Journaling isn’t just for angsty teenagers. It’s like having a conversation with yourself where you don’t have to apologize for your wild thoughts. Often offering both clarity and release, fiction, poetry, stream of consciousness – whatever helps you dump those mental gremlins onto paper. Stream of consciousness writings are my favorite. When something is bothering me I like to sit down and just start writing and just see where it takes me. Whether you’re writing a letter to yourself, crafting poetry, or telling a short story, the act of writing helps organize your thoughts and reduce emotional overload. Sometimes its funny sometimes its revealing in that sometimes I will be writing about whatever is bothering me and whatever the answer is it jumps onto the paper after I’ve worked it out in my head and put it to paper. Other times I will write about a problem and put it away for a set amount of time NOT thinking about it and go back to it after a day or so and when I look at it again it doesnt matter as much or I immediately come up with a solution I couldnt think of when I was laser focused on it. Any way you look at it, getting the words out (to your own eyes anyway) can’t make it worse.
Music: Turning Emotional Chaos into Sound
You don’t need to be a rock star. Singing in the shower, drumming on kitchen counters, or creating the world’s most chaotic Spotify playlist counts as therapy. Music has the incredible ability to transport you to another place. Research has shown that playing music, or even just singing along to your favorite tunes, can reduce cortisol levels (the stress hormone) and boost your mood. My personal recommendation? Find that one song that makes you forget everything else exists. Put on kitchen concerts for the animals. Blast the music while you are cooking and embarrass your teenager by singing along to all the songs at full volume with the confidence that said teenager used to sing the wrong lyrics with. LOL I hate saying ‘kids these days’ but its true, they didnt have radio before lyrics were freely available, remember when you were young singing along to songs with your friends only to realize you’ve been singing the wrong words so you missed the meaning in the song entirely lol. Music has hit me HARD in the last few years, and I have such eclectic taste, I love songs with that emotional breath catch, not like the fake movie ones but like just pure angst they just can’t contain the little noise that goes with it. Thats my favorite. I dont drive anymore but that used to be my go to, getting in the car and driving, windows down (well usually smoking back then too) and blasting the music loudly singing along. I do miss that, being a passenger doesnt work, it just hits different I dont know why.
Crafting: Hands Busy, Brain Quiet
Whether it’s knitting, building model trains, or creating the world’s most elaborate paperclip sculpture, sometimes keeping your hands busy is the best way to quiet your mind. Its for the same reason some people have to do lists, crossing those little things off the list give you a sense of accomplishment and a craft project, especially something tangible you can see and feel. Repetitive motions can be calming too. I generally read a book but when I’m going through things in my head I can’t sit still so I make things. Not good things, I made a coat hanger Christmas tree for my room because I love the lights. I’m tempted to become like a teenager and line my room with LED light strips I love the soft glow. I did a number of crafty gifts this year too. My little monkey (well not so little but my youngest will always be my little monkey) likes four different NFL teams and wanted merch for each for Christmas. We all know how expensive that would have been so I made her ornaments for each team. Little things like that.
Dance Like Nobody’s Watching (Seriously, Nobody’s Watching)
No choreography required. Just you, some music, and zero judgment. Moving your body releases endorphins and reduces stress. Dance also helps to reconnect with your body in a positive way, making it an excellent tool for both physical and mental wellness Pro move: Close the curtains and go absolutely wild. Ever since I was a teenager when I got upset I’d be in my room singing and dancing to the music I was blaring. It warns my family I’m going through some shit in my head and now might not be the best time to ask me for more since I’m already super overwhelmed. And in the kitchen while I am fixing dinner, it used to be a routine, me and monkey dancing around in the kitchen lol.
Cooking and Baking: Whisk Your Worries Away
Now we should also be talking about turning your kitchen into a stress-free zone. Cooking isn’t just about not starving – it’s like therapy, but with tastier results. Chopping veggies can be weirdly zen, and don’t even get me started on the magic of kneading dough. It’s like punching your problems, but in a socially acceptable way.Here’s the deal: whipping up a meal gives you control when everything else feels chaotic. Plus, experimenting with flavors is way more fun than spiraling into anxiety. And let’s be real, comfort food is called that for a reason. Bonus points if you share your creations – nothing beats the warm fuzzies of feeding your people.
Photography: Capturing Calm in the Chaos
Ever notice how looking through a camera lens can make the world seem less… overwhelming? It’s like putting on anxiety-canceling glasses. Suddenly, you’re not worrying about your to-do list; you’re hunting for that perfect shot of a flower or your friend’s goofy smile. Photography is sneaky mindfulness. You have to slow down, breathe, and really look at what’s around you. It doesn’t matter if you’re using a fancy camera or just your phone – the point is to capture those little moments of “oh, hey, the world isn’t so bad after all.”
Gardening: Nature’s Therapy
Let’s get our hands dirty, folks. Gardening isn’t just for retirees with too much time on their hands. It’s like playing in the dirt, but as an adult, and with purpose. There’s something stupidly satisfying about watching a seed you planted turn into an actual plant. It’s like, “Look, I made life happen!” – which is pretty cool when you’re feeling powerless. Even if you don’t have a green thumb (hello, plant murderers anonymous), just being around plants can chill you out. It’s nature’s way of saying, “Relax, dude. If I can grow through concrete, you can handle your day.”
Embrace Your Inner Weirdo Creator
Here’s the thing about all these stress-busting activities: there’s no right way to do them. Can’t cook without burning water? Who cares! Your photos all blurry? Big deal! Plants keep dying? Join the club! (seriously I swear they see me coming and unalive themselves LOL) The point isn’t to be good at these things. It’s about finding something that makes your brain shut up for a bit. Whether you’re painting stick figures, writing terrible poetry, or growing the world’s saddest basil plant, you’re giving your stress the middle finger. You can combine a lot of these creative pursuits, take a picture of the food you made all pretty, hell take pics of your ugly creations too, all the abominations, so if you decide to stick with whatever the creative pursuit you can keep track of how far you’ve made it. So next time you’re feeling like the world’s out to get you, try picking up a spatula, a camera, or a watering can. Your stressed-out brain will thank you – and hey, you might even have some fun along the way.Remember, gang: creativity isn’t about being perfect. It’s about telling stress to fuck all the way off. Til next time gang, take care of yourselves, and each other!
So you are here. If you are here, logic dictates you share similar issues as mine, and while I’ve got a ton to say about all of the things I struggle with daily, and make no mistake, I struggle, but if I had to pick ONE thing that creeps in the longest strongest and loudest to my everyday, its hands down (then up cuz ew?) ANXIETY! And folks I know the WHY of why I struggle with every minute of every hour of everyday, I think there’s never a second of my life that isnt in some way shape or form exhibiting one of these things. Sometimes we don’t know how to solve the problem that we already have the answer for tucked up in the corner of our brains, out of the way just like memories of our favorite trip on the boat when we were kids, or our very first phone numbers. And THAT my friends, reminds me of the time that my mother changed our phone number and didnt tell me, OR THE SCHOOL what that number was, initially refusing to do so. Ah, fun times. Most of us just don’t suck at giving life the answers and a compassionate ear. But we’ve not been given us the tools one needs to complete a task successfully or one ounce of ability to convey what we learned. We do learn lessons even in failure and defeat. anyway that was unrelated but you’d be surprised at all the systems impacted by our anxiety, both justified and not (I am queen of worrying about shit I can’t do anything about) or at least I was surprised, so let me lay out what I learned:
Let’s face it, folks – when anxiety decides to set up shop in your brain long-term, it’s not just messing with your mind. This unwelcome guest can wreak havoc on your whole body. Here’s the lowdown on what chronic anxiety can do to you:
Physical Toll:
Your immune system takes a nosedive, leaving you open to every bug out there. Chronic anxiety can weaken your immune system, making it less effective at defending your body against infections and illnesses. This leaves you more vulnerable to catching colds, viruses, and other health issues, so even though anxiety itself doesnt exhibit symptoms, your immune system always in flight mode isnt doing you any favors, wearing you down physically.
Your ticker might start acting up (hello, heart problems!) – like you know, it stopping or something, I might know a little about that lol Anxiety triggers the “fight or flight” response, increasing heart rate and blood pressure, which can strain the heart and blood vessels, contributing to heart disease over time.
Muscle tension, especially in the neck, shoulders, and back, can lead to chronic pain, headaches, and jaw clenching or teeth grinding. Even if you don’t mean to, words thoughts or actions have a polarizing effect on your body and without adequate self care those affects could become permanent
Say goodbye to peaceful digestion (stomach issues, anyone?) I mean, IBS is ugly to talk about but we all suffer from it from time to time, but anxiety makes it a permanent addition to your alphabet of issues
Constant tension headaches become your new normal – Migraines CAN be caused by tension, or maybe you are tense BECAUSE you have a migraine. They can be caused by something else and made WORSE by a migraine but its never a question vice versa because migraines are never ever a good time..
Mental Mayhem:
Depression might join the party (as if anxiety wasn’t enough) I love it when I get depressed BECAUSE I’m anxious, then somewhere I flip the script and get anxious about always being depressed.
Your memory starts playing hide and seek – I’ve also been told menopause can cause you to forget things, and also menopause can make you for- wait, what was my point? Yes, a joke? but memory loss is one of the worst things and I get so anxious about my memory because I know I KNOW I’ll forget stuff then I wind up trying so hard to not forget something that I forget something else, it’s a self fulfilling prophecy, never ends.
Concentrating becomes as hard as nailing jelly to a wall. Concentrate? LOL I can’t keep something on my brain long enough to concentrate on it lol
Sleep? What’s that? Insomnia becomes your midnight companion. This has affected me in the past but I’ll tell you I honestly fall asleep at the drop of a hat these days. I’m in a legal weed state, draw your own conclusions
Bottom line: Chronic anxiety isn’t just about feeling worried all the time. It’s a whole-body experience that can seriously mess with your health if left unchecked. So if you’re battling this beast, don’t tough it out alone – reaching out for help is the smartest move you can make. We truly are all ‘in it’ together and it would be great if we could work with each other and not against each other. Always remember, kindness is free and highly contagious. Not going to promise because if I’m up to it we’ll be putting the tree up but next week we’ll dig in to what can be done about anxiety (without throwing copious amounts of drugs at it. Til next time gang, take care of yourselves and each other.
WannaBeNormal 